From Self-Doubt to Self-Discovery

From Self-Doubt to Self-Discovery

In the glistening landscapes of New Zealand, with my deep Māori cultural roots embracing me like a warm hug.  My childhood was an endless adventure of fun and discovery.  However life has a way of throwing you curve balls, that turn the beauty of nature into the darkness of the trenches.  The influential words of Maya Angelou ring true, “We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be defeated.”

Indeed, life’s unpredictable twists and turns often present hurdles.  Reminding us that struggles, both internal and external, are an intrinsic part of our human experience.

I am a testament to this journey. While I was fortunate to be nurtured by my Māori heritage, an unforeseen tragedy.  The untimely loss of my mother, sent shockwaves through my existence. The ensuing chapters of my life became punctuated with decisions rooted in pain, an emotional turmoil that was in stark contrast to my serene beginnings.

Yet, I present my story not as a victim but as an encouragement. For every life story, as diverse as they may seem, holds a universal truth — they shape us, fortify our spirit, and fuel our aspirations.

Deliberately Living

Today, as The Feminine Warrior, my life is an example of transformation — from battling self-doubt as a child to embracing empowerment as a woman. Through the phases of loss, professional upheavals, and personal battles, my quest for self-growth was always flickering in the next steps for everything I did. This relentless pursuit culminated in the birth of ‘Deliberately Living YOU!’, an inspirational pathway for countless women to chart their own course of self-realisation.

Your journey, though unique, echoes the same underlying human essence. While paths differ, the essence of growth, discovery, and resilience remains universally constant. If this narrative resonates with your heart, I invite you to connect and embark on your transformative voyage. After all, each one of us holds the pen to our own story, all it takes is your awareness for self-discovery to be ever ready to script a new narrative.

Three Myths About Personal Growth and Self-Discovery

1. Myth: Grief, pain, and struggles are setbacks. Reality: These are merely facilitators for growth. After my mother’s passing, I grappled with grief, made decisions from a place of pain, and built walls around my heart. Running away, marrying young, distancing myself from my family — these were all outcomes of my pain. But each decision, each step, was also leading me towards self-awareness.
2. Myth: Professional success is equal to personal fulfilment. Reality: Your job title doesn’t define your self-worth. Climbing the corporate ladder, I transitioned from a factory worker to a General Manager. Yet, when the company I dedicated my heart and soul to was sold, the void within me grew wider. I realised that our internal struggles often over shadow external successes.
3. Myth: Self-discovery is a destination. Reality: It’s an ongoing journey.My path towards inner growth began with questioning my core beliefs, challenging my fears, and constantly breaking down the walls that I had unknowingly wrapped around myself.

The aha moment

The aha moment came shining through with an enlightening feeling of knowing that I was going to be ok, making this journey motivated insatiable change.  I tapped into my essence of The Feminine Warrior that was always residing within me, becoming an expression of drive, resilience, and empowerment. This profound transformation wasn’t just a personal reawakening; it became a desired urge to work with other women, motioning them towards their own transformation. From this purpose, ‘Deliberately Living YOU!’ was born.

“The aha moment came shining through with an enlightening feeling of knowing that I was going to be ok, making this journey motivated insatiable change.”

As the narrator, you are part of something far greater than a mere program; you’re at the heart of your movement. It’s a crusade that speaks to your essence as a woman, beckoning you to acknowledge your worth, to break free from the shackles of restraint, to align with your most profound ambitions, and to etch a lasting impact on the fabric of the world. If there’s ever been a flicker within you, a yearning for something more, for a life filled with purpose and direction, this is your call to action. Take that ember of desire and fuel it; for you hold the power to mould the destiny you’ve longed for. It’s time to embrace your strength and join hands in forging a reality where dreams are not mere figments but tangible truths.

Imagine greeting the dawn tomorrow infused with a revitalised sense of mission, clarity, and direction. How would it transform your life to unleash the potential that has always dwelled within you, poised to redefine your future?

This transformation isn’t only within reach;                            It is only three steps away.

1. Embrace: The journey begins with acceptance. Delve into your past, explore the stories that have shaped you, and recognise their profound influence. Your story is unique, powerful, and an undeniable part of who you are.
2. Elevate: Now, picture the walls that have hindered your growth, the chains that have kept your spirit grounded. Identifying these barriers is the first step. The next? Summoning the courage and strength to shatter them setting your soul free.
3. Emerge: With barriers broken, it’s time to soar. Shape each day with intention, directing your path with unwavering focus and a clear vision of the future you desire.

“Imagine greeting the dawn tomorrow infused with a revitalised sense of mission, clarity, and direction. How would it transform your life to unleash the potential that has always dwelled within you, poised to redefine your future?”

The keys to your transformation are already in your hands. All you need is to unlock the door to a clearer tomorrow, starting today. Dive deep, discover yourself, and watch as your world changes before your eyes.

Action Takeaways  

Your journey, like mine, will be unique. It will have its challenges and victories. Remember, it’s never about the destination but the lessons learned along the way. Start by:

1. Reflecting on Your Story: Take some time out. Thinking about the key moments in your life, including both the highs and the lows. What did they teach you?
2. Seek Guidance: If you ever feel lost and or overwhelmed, remember, there’s no harm in seeking guidance. Be it through books, mentors, or programs like ‘Deliberately Living YOU!’, find your anchor.
3. Take Deliberate Actions: Every decision you make shapes your narrative. Make choices that resonate with your core beliefs and aspirations.

“Let the essence within you rise and shine!”